def destroyed_for_counter_culture?
      if respond_to?(:paranoia_destroyed?)
        paranoia_destroyed?
      elsif defined?(Discard::Model) && self.class.include?(Discard::Model)
        discarded?
      else
        false
      end
    end
def destroyed_for_counter_culture?
      if respond_to?(:paranoia_destroyed?)
        paranoia_destroyed?
      elsif defined?(Discard::Model) && self.class.include?(Discard::Model)
        discarded?
      else
        false
      end
    end
check if record is soft-deleted