A. J. Alfieri-Crispin and life partner Kevin Crispin-Alfieri on their back deck over looking the Oakland Hill, Thursday morning June 24, 2004. They have lived in Oakland for four years on their eleven years together. Oakland is home to more lesbian couples per capita than any other major American city and ranks third in gay and lesbian households behind San Francisco and Seattle according to census data, Thursday June 24, 2004. LACY ATKINS / The Chronicle